Posts Tagged ‘Self Image’

How Do We See Our Kids?

February 22nd, 2010

“Successful parents raising positive, drug-free kids need to see their kids as finished, competent, positive adults” Zig Ziglar. 

Many times we see our kids as just our kids.  That sounds reasonable – right?  But think about what goes through your head.  As I walk around the house sometimes, I see maybe some chores that aren’t finished, then I see a backpack where it shouldn’t be, then I see 3 water glasses on the kitchen sick from the same kid.  I start to see my kids for all the stuff they are not complying with at home.  Over time, this really distracts or should I say DISTORTS the image we have of our kids. 

 In the Family Mind Program, I really focus on the tools to switch our perception and see our kids with all the hopes and dreams we had for them the day they were born!   This will really help our kids grow up with confidence and a great self image!

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Raise Confident Teenagers in 2010!

January 11th, 2010

What is one of the biggest things that gets in the way of raising confident teenagers?  Could it be the parent’s confidence?  This is the largest obstacle that stops us from raising confident kids.  If our parents were not able to raise us with confidence then how can we teach our kids to grow up with confidence?   Add the fact that there are so many stresses that families face today: job security, debt, health, relationship issues, etc…  How do parents manage this if they do not have a strong self image? Plus parents are fighting against all the teenage stresses including drugs, alcohol, driving, internet predators and just plain ole respect.

There is one really simple recipe to grow the confidence of the whole family!  We mix a little improved self image along with a bunch of happiness, then we throw in gratitude and a super outlook to create some amazing results!  As the confidence and happiness of the family grows - everyone benefits! 

We can all take part in improving families and especially teenagers confidence by learning some very key tools.  Join a  free webinar this week being offered two times for your convenience ($49 value).  

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Next Step is Taking Action

December 7th, 2009

i luv meStill growing your self image right!!  November 30th, I asked you to create a list of fun things you want in your lives…….pick one item and list a couple baby steps on how to achieve it.  Of course you won’t know all the steps.  That is okay just write down what you know.  After you write these down implement one of them immediately!  DON’T WAIT.  Do it Now!!! 

As you are sprinting into action, how does this feel?  It feels good doesn’t it?  Our goal is to feel good now!  We spend too much time feeling bad about what we don’t want and we don’t do.  Now we are taking Massive Action as Tony Robbins says and begin to take action on one thing on your list.  If it is achieving a goal weight then make working out one of your actions.  Do your workouts everyday!  How do you feel while taking this action?  You have already achieved your goal – to feel great!  Keep it going!  Keep your list full of action items and keep working on them. 

Now the only thing that is going to stop you from continuous action is your current self image.  It is going to kick, scratch and fight the new you that you are growing.  This is okay!  When you are feeling this fight – you know you are changing towards the better!  Celebrate by patting yourself on the back!  Keep moving towards the goal line!

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Step 4 Time to Commit to Change Your Life & Your Habits

November 11th, 2009

iStock_000007473334Small mindRemember we are in the midst of building our self image!  We have unloaded our past and sent it away for good over the past couple weeks of blogs!  Now we are filling the gap this left.  We started a gratitude list or journal the other day.  Keep it going!  It will feel great!

Okay don’t think we are done because we aren’t.  It really takes some time to change our habitual way of thinking doesn’t it?  Researchers say it takes 21 days to break a habit.  Well, we have not reached 21 days yet.  This is a commitment that we have to make.  How much do we want to keep the same old life?  Many people say yes because it is comfortable.  But really how bad do we want more money?  How bad do we want better relationships?  How bad do we want to raise amazing kids?  Well, we are going for long term pleasure not short term fixes!  Would we be willing to do what it takes to change our life if it meant more money, happier families, better relationships, perfect weight, and better health?  I bet we all say yes!  Where do we want to be this time next year?  We can be in the same place or we can be in a much, much better place!  I choose better!  Are we committed to being in a better place?  YES?  Then let’s start defining what this better place looks and feels like.  Begin working on this.  I will check in with you in a couple days!

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Step 3 Self Image Improves By a Little Brainwashing!

November 9th, 2009

i luv meFor the last week or two we have been working on unloading anything from our past that has been holding us back from our potential.  We are improving our self image so we can find out what our true potential is.  We need to get the black clouds out of the way.  If we had anger, hurts, resentment, pain, whatever it is we unloaded it and let it go!  Okay so we did it!  Yeah!  But now what?  What do we do now?  Well there is this gap where all this pain sat.  When we let go of something that has been controlling our lives (for some of us all our lives) if we don’t fill that gap with something new then the old creeps back in again – not only the old but the comfortable, the habit.  Yuk we do not want that again! 

So we want to consciously fill this gap.  We need to control what goes in it or other things will take over.  So time to make another list.  Sorry yes another list.  Make a gratitude list.  What are the things we have in our life that we are SO grateful for?  Who is in our life that we are thankful for?  Get them all down on paper.  Do this everyday.  We need to begin focusing our thoughts on things we are happy for and not mad about.  We have to retrain the brain how to think now.  It is like brainwashing ourselves.  Let the brainwashing process begin! 

P.S. Watch the other people around you as you build your confidence.  As you begin improving the way you feel, think and treat yourself – you will see others do it to you AND themselves!

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Step 1 Changing the Way You Feel About Yourself

November 2nd, 2009

Last week we discussed why we don’t love ourself.  We also discussed why it is SO important for us to change this once we become aware of it.  This week we are going to start this change process.  Are you ready?  GREAT!!!  I know you said yes!

The first step in this journey is to look back on your life.  We were all born perfect children but society and the self image’s of the people we grew up around changed this for us.  What were the situations in your life as you grew up?  Were there some ‘events’ that took place that you can say “AHHHH yes that was it”?  Was it words that were repeated to you?  Some parents were taught to call their kids stupid either directly or indirectly.  So there could be obvious things or not so obvious things.  Words or lack of attention over time can add up to a lack of self image.  So your homework is to reflect on the past and see what these events were for you.  For me, I could say that it was a lack of attention (I did have 10 brothers and sisters) and also a lack of self image in the people I grew up around. 

photo_3842_20090123Really think about this today and tomorrow.  My next post will tell you what to do with this information when you have it.  One more thing – this might not be so pleasant for you.  Do it anyway!  If you don’t then you will just have more of what you have now!  What have you got to lose?

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Why don’t you LOVE yourself? The answer is revealed!

October 30th, 2009

Remember on Wednesday we asked why we don’t like ourselves!  Well the answer is……  (Drum roll please…) 

iStock_000007473334Small mindYou were taught to treat yourself by the way the people you grew up around treated themselves.  Think about it.  How did your parents treat themselves?  Did they have a low self esteem?  Did they have bad habits such as alcohol, bad relationships, bad jobs, no money etc…  You will find it will be a mirror match.  For some people it might be the complete opposite as they felt so strong they would never be like that but for most it will be a match.

Now there is a new question – what are you going to do with this new knowledge?  We know we treat ourselves worse than we treat anyone in the world!  But we just learned we do this because we were taught to do this.  How do we get out of this cycle?  How can we begin to love ourselves? 

Now don’ t go crazy on me and start saying you could never love yourself?  That is ridiculous.  If you don’t begin to love yourself then what kids are you around right now?  The kids can either live with you or not but you are a prime example to them.  If you don’t begin to change then you are passing this negative self image to them.  We inherit diseases right?  Well we inherit self images, tempers, bad habits and more from the people we spend a lot of time with as we grow up!  Do you think you want to begin improving yourself now?  Yes I thought so!  Watch the next blog for the first steps on how to begin to love yourself!  It is easier than you think!

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Bob Proctor talking about Self Image

October 7th, 2009

Another one of my favorite mentors and business partners is Bob Proctor.  He is absolutely amazing!  You will find I do talk about him A LOT.  In this video he is talking about our belief systems.  Anything we have in our lives right now today is a pure reflection of what potential we think we have.  I am going to tell you a secret though – we have INFINITE POTENTIAL.  We have the potential to raise crazy amazing confident kids! 

How can we change our current belief system to begin realizing our amazing potential that we really have?  Write down what you would want if there were no obstacles.  How much money would you want in the bank?  How would your kids be what would be in your lives right now?  Add a couple zeros to the money you just wrote down.  What if you could achieve this?  YOU CAN!!!  Start believing you are worth it!  Start believing you deserve it!  And watch the silly fun turn of events in your lives!

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I Am Worthy!

September 30th, 2009

I apologize for the quality of this video.  Someone filmed Joel Osteen on TV which is funny but his message is SO IMPORTANT.  We are here for a wonderful reason.  What is your reason?  Find your passion to find your reason.  Joel talks about watching our words to ourselves.  We repeat bad words about ourselves but we can change this and bless our lives.  We change our words and this will change our perception of our lives.  Many of us say we have faith but then we say we can never do something.  What is that?  Change your words and change your life!  Repeat wonderful things to yourself and you will start expecting good things.  I am worthy!  I am worthy!  You are worthy!  Yes you are! 

Joel is right when he said someone told you that you were unworthy.  Someone taught you that!  Now teach yourself that you are blessed you are worthy!  Yes you are!  What you focus on grows in your life.  Believe it first then you will see it! 

Don’t think you can teach your kids to feel worthy if you don’t.  Start with you and your kids will learn by what you DO!

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