Picture this…our kids come home from school in a crabby, crabby mood. They start talking back to us and all we did is ask them how their day was. Do you have these moments in your home? They shouldn’t talk to their parent’s disrespectful right? They have to learn or they are going to get out of hand.
I have a thought for you….
What if you let them vent (even if it is on you) and when they are done talking you say “Wow you didn’t have a good day at school did you?” They will look at you very funny at first. They may even become defensive.
My rule is respond to them DON’T REACT.
Don’t add any emotions to this conversation. Give them the space to get it off their chest. Then respond with a comment showing them that you support them and love them. It takes two to argue and if you keep your emotions out of this picture then there will be no argument. Their mood will disappear and they will feel more confident because you gave them the floor to vent and to listen to them.
“But they can’t talk to me this way” you ask?
You will find they will apologize all on their own. Then they will give you a hug because you showed them you love them just by not reacting. This helps boost their self confidence. Give it a try and test it yourself! I have done this hundreds of times with my kids and with other people at the stores or at work etc. It works every time! Happy testing!
Parents Big Tip - Watch the little things that you say to your kids. I found that I had a good plan with my kids but it was the little things I said to them which was causing them some pain. Make sure everything that comes out of your mouth is full of respect and love. Also, make sure they understand why decisions are made even if they are little like can I have some candy. Explain so they feel important. They may not like what you decided but at least they understand. You have taken the time to tell them why and give them better respect. 
