Posts Tagged ‘improve self image’

Step 3 Self Image Improves By a Little Brainwashing!

November 9th, 2009

i luv meFor the last week or two we have been working on unloading anything from our past that has been holding us back from our potential.  We are improving our self image so we can find out what our true potential is.  We need to get the black clouds out of the way.  If we had anger, hurts, resentment, pain, whatever it is we unloaded it and let it go!  Okay so we did it!  Yeah!  But now what?  What do we do now?  Well there is this gap where all this pain sat.  When we let go of something that has been controlling our lives (for some of us all our lives) if we don’t fill that gap with something new then the old creeps back in again – not only the old but the comfortable, the habit.  Yuk we do not want that again! 

So we want to consciously fill this gap.  We need to control what goes in it or other things will take over.  So time to make another list.  Sorry yes another list.  Make a gratitude list.  What are the things we have in our life that we are SO grateful for?  Who is in our life that we are thankful for?  Get them all down on paper.  Do this everyday.  We need to begin focusing our thoughts on things we are happy for and not mad about.  We have to retrain the brain how to think now.  It is like brainwashing ourselves.  Let the brainwashing process begin! 

P.S. Watch the other people around you as you build your confidence.  As you begin improving the way you feel, think and treat yourself – you will see others do it to you AND themselves!

Step 1 Changing the Way You Feel About Yourself

November 2nd, 2009

Last week we discussed why we don’t love ourself.  We also discussed why it is SO important for us to change this once we become aware of it.  This week we are going to start this change process.  Are you ready?  GREAT!!!  I know you said yes!

The first step in this journey is to look back on your life.  We were all born perfect children but society and the self image’s of the people we grew up around changed this for us.  What were the situations in your life as you grew up?  Were there some ‘events’ that took place that you can say “AHHHH yes that was it”?  Was it words that were repeated to you?  Some parents were taught to call their kids stupid either directly or indirectly.  So there could be obvious things or not so obvious things.  Words or lack of attention over time can add up to a lack of self image.  So your homework is to reflect on the past and see what these events were for you.  For me, I could say that it was a lack of attention (I did have 10 brothers and sisters) and also a lack of self image in the people I grew up around. 

photo_3842_20090123Really think about this today and tomorrow.  My next post will tell you what to do with this information when you have it.  One more thing – this might not be so pleasant for you.  Do it anyway!  If you don’t then you will just have more of what you have now!  What have you got to lose?