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God Doesn’t Make Junk

May 19th, 2010

How many beliefs are you carrying with you right now that are paving your future?  How many of your beliefs are holding you back from achieving the life you dream about or that you see others having?  Ask your self what some of these are.  Write them down on a piece of paper and ask your self if they are real? 

I came across this video from Tony Robbins today in my inbox.  It is really long but it is really amazing.  Put these beliefs that you have in the situation they are talking about.  You will be ready to change those beliefs when you are done!  Enjoy!

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Mom’s On Their Own To Do List? Come on…..

May 4th, 2010

Wow I have talked to a lot of moms lately and they are all SO busy!  How can they be so busy?  Well, whether they have a full time job or not they are all juggling the kids, the chores, and the errands.   Add the job thing into the mix and there is even more of a struggle.  Moms are so busy they do not have time to do much for themselves.  Many moms feel this is the way it is supposed to be too.  We are living in that Martyr Kingdom that we do all for others and leave ourselves last  on the list.  Hmmm we all know we never get through our to do list either so we never get to attend to ourselves.  Add this up day after day and guess where our energy level is at?  You are right – at the bottom of the drain. 

What can we do about this?  Well there are a couple things.  Decide right now one thing that you can do for your self.    I went and got a pedicure.  Other moms love to take bubble baths.  What is your one thing that would make you feel amazing if you could do it.  Pick one of these things every week NO MATTER WHAT. 

There is a great benefit that you will begin to feel after a couple weeks.  You will find that you are adding energy into your energy bank account.  You will have more energy for your kids, your chores, your errands and your life.  It is amazing how the air in the house changes when you feel good and energized!  So, for Mother’s Day ask for something that would make you feel energized!

As a bonus, we are hosting a seminar called Take Your Energy Back this Thursday at 10:30 am central.  Just click here to register.  

Happy Mother’s Day!

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Do You Have Faith?

April 26th, 2010

I am coaching a mastermind group on FAITH today.  It really gets me thinking about things I have in my life that I have received. 

  • How did I get them? 
  • How did I know to keep working towards these goals without any knowledge whether I would receive them or not? 
  • What was the difference between the things I have received or achieved and the things I didn’t? 

What do you think is the difference?

What have you achieved in your life?  What was your state of mind? 

“Faith is the starting point for everything you achieve in your life.  Faith is the basis of all ‘miracles’ and all mysteries which cannot be analyzed by the rules of science” Napoleon Hill. 

Think about the results you have in your life that you DON’T like.  What thoughts or faith have you been putting towards them?  Do you have enough money?  Did you have faith that the money would come to you?  Do you have a great relationship with your kids?  Did you think you WOULD have one? 

What is going on in your thoughts?  This is in total alignment with what you have going on in your present results.  Look at this picture on the right.  If you are on the bottom stair to success and you have an idea or a goal that will bring you to the top of the stairway – what is going to get you there?  Usually when we have a goal, we don’t know all the steps of how we are going to achieve it.   So, take the first step and Faith fills the rest!  Step up into faith and the physical steps to achieving your goal will be revealed to you in the perfect timing. 

MAY CHALLENGE:  Write down your goals that you would like to achieve by the end of May.  Repeat these goals out loud at least twice every day.  Begin to imagine having achieved them. 

Faith will get you there!

 

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What Do You Mean I Am Insane?

April 20th, 2010

Am I Crazy?

Have you ever heard of the definition of insanity – “Doing the same thing over and over again while expecting different results.” 

 I want you to pick a result that you have in your life right now that you DON’T like. 

Do you have one in mind? 

Great!  (Some people might pick their weight).  Now, think about the actions you are doing to get this result.  Are you eating too much cookie dough?  (I might be guilty of this particular action!)  Are you working out? 

So, the actions you have identified above – that are done on a consistent basis – will be in alignment with the results you are receiving.  No surprises right?  With the weight example, what actions are you taking on a daily basis?  If you are at a weight you do not like then what actions have you been taking to get here.   

The fun part of this is that you have CONTROL over what results you can have tomorrow!  I am serious!  Start to take the actions that will lead you to the results you want tomorrow! 

If you are a parent and you want a better relationship with your kids – well stop picking on what you don’t like and see what you love about them!!  If you want more money – then spend less or make more.  If you want your perfect weight – then eat less and workout more!  It IS that simple!  Let’s define our insanity by doing the same thing over and over again to get what we WANT!!

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Have You Ever Had ‘A Day’?

April 13th, 2010

I had a day yesterday and it wasn’t great.  I don’t know what was going on in my head.  I didn’t post my blog.  My to do list didn’t get done.  I felt bad and felt like I couldn’t do anything.  Any goals I had – forget it!  We all have these kind of days right?  I hope!?? Don’t you?   :|

How do we act around our kids on these days?  Our moods affect our kids very directly.  We have to be aware of this and remember our energy is picked up by everyone in our house.  If our kids started acting out on these days then don’t lash out on them.  Don’t add this to your list of what made your day go bad. 

Realize this is a direct cause of your mood and your energy. 

Give your kids some space.  One great thing you can do when this happens is to find something for both you and your kids to do together that you enjoy.  Begin to do it and you will feel the energy shift immediately in the room.  The smoke will clear and it will smell cleaner.

One more point about “our days”.  Our kids also have these “days.”  Realize that we all do.  We do not all fall into perfect alignment everyday of the year.  We have our moments and our days and so do our children.  The best thing you can do for your kids when you notice they are just in a mood is to talk to them.  Don’t react to their mood and get caught up in your movie of how they are supposed to treat you.  I know this isn’t easy.  Believe me!  Do it anyway!  Give them a hug and distract them by spending time with them either playing, talking, reading or just listening to them. 

I have so much gratitude for “my day” yesterday because my husband and my kids all gave ME that space that I needed to get it out of me so I can have a wonderful day today!  The day after is always so amazing!  :)

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Can You Change Your Focus To Get What You Want?

April 5th, 2010

As a coach, I am so lucky to get to talk to so many people.  One common thing thing going on in their minds is their focus.  They focus on the lack, or the gap, or their unworthiness.   So, they don’t have a lot of money they don’t have great relationships, or their health stinks. 

God can’t work in their minds when the focus in all of these things.  He can’t give them what they want if they give so much power to the lack. 

GOD WANTS TO BE IN YOUR HEART ALL THE TIME! 

When you are focusing on the lack, snap your finger and just feel his power.  I promise you the lack will dissapear immediately and his love will fill that space.  Keep training yourself to feel his power, faith and love.  You will see the affects of this in your life through the peace-filled and love-filled thoughts that are now dominating your focus. 

Feel as amazing as God sees you!

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You Can Take Your Relationship Back!

March 29th, 2010

I want to take you back for a moment.  Think back to when you first wanted to have kids.  Think about what was going through your head in those moments.  What goals did you have for your kids?  What did you want to do with them and for them?  What kind of relationship were you going to have with them?  Really remember all those feelings and pictures you had for their lives.

Now, look at today.  Many of us do not have the type of relationship with our kids that we first dreamed about because we lost it somehow along the way of life.  We lost all those pictures because we got busy with daily chores, jobs and stuff. 

I am here to tell you right now that you CAN get it all back. 

Start remembering all those wonderful goals and dreams you had for your kids when they were first born.  Get them back in the front of your mind right now.  If you have to write them down – do it.  Make them your goals again. Every word that comes out of your mouth should emulate what goals you have for them.  You were full of love when they were born – make sure your words are full of love now that they are teenagers.

As a parent, you are the biggest influence in your kids lives no matter how old they are!  I am partnering with you to make sure your influence is a GREAT one.  We are growing confident kids which are going to change the world!  Have fun taking your relationship back!

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It Takes Two to Argue!

March 15th, 2010

Picture this…our kids come home from school in a crabby, crabby mood.  They start talking back to us and all we did is ask them how their day was.  Do you have these moments in your home?  They shouldn’t talk to their parent’s disrespectful right?  They have to learn or they are going to get out of hand. 

I have a thought for you…. 

What if you let them vent (even if it is on you) and when they are done talking you say “Wow you didn’t have a good day at school did you?”  They will look at you very funny at first.  They may even become defensive. 

My rule is respond to them DON’T REACT. 

Don’t add any emotions to this conversation.  Give them the space to get it off their chest.  Then respond with a comment showing them that you support them and love them.  It takes two to argue and if you keep your emotions out of this picture then there will be no argument.  Their mood will disappear and they will feel more confident because you gave them the floor to vent and to listen to them. 

“But they can’t talk to me this way” you ask? 

You will find they will apologize all on their own.  Then they will give you a hug because you showed them you love them just by not reacting.  This helps boost their self confidence.  Give it a try and test it yourself!  I have done this hundreds of times with my kids and with other people at the stores or at work etc.  It works every time!  Happy testing!

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Want more peace at home? Start with YOU!

March 8th, 2010

I was at a couple different parties this past weekend and came across a mom that really loved her daughter.  BUT there was a problem – all I heard from her was everything her daughter was weak in.  She was really focusing so much energy and power to everything her daughter was doing wrong.  Please watch your words, your tones and your actions when you talk TO your kids and when you talk ABOUT your kids to others.  If you want your kids to respect you, if you want your kids to behave better, if you want your family to stop driving you crazy then the first place of change is with you!  I know this is a bit harsh but I had to figure it out too!  This is the hardest place yet the easiest place to make a change.  I created more peace in my home when I changed me.  Then my kids were respectful and happy. 

I challenge you to make your words, your actions and your tone to reflect the love you have for your kids this week.  We do love our kids.  I am not doubting this at all.  Sometimes we just stink at showing it or we were trained to show it in ways that defeat our goals.  So, everything that comes out of your lips and all the energy you place towards your kids this week is full of love and peace.  It starts with YOU!

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30 Day Gratitude Challenge

March 1st, 2010

“Joy is what happens to us when we allow ourselves to recognize how good things really are” – Marianne Williamson.

Gratitude is something as a society we are not really taught to focus on.  Sure we send thank you cards when we get gifts but I am talking about something much more.  We are built to inherently focus on the negative things going on around us; for example, the economy, health issues like cancer, drugs, crime, politics, etc.  We then take that forward to our own life and look at all our failures, lack of money, debt load, lack of job or a job we hate, bad health, or just plain old unhappiness.

I want to help you change that focus.  We gain no peace by focusing on what we don’t have but we think we should.  So, why do we focus on that?  I think we were trained that way by many different inputs through our life.  BUT we don’t have to keep it going now. 

Let’s make a conscious choice to change the way we think and only focus on the positive side.  We will only focus on things we WANT in our lives.  The best way to begin to do this is to think about all the things we appreciate.  What is going on in our life that we are so thankful for?  What is in our life right now that we don’t want to leave? 

Here is your 30 day challenge – find a piece of paper and write a list of 10 things that you have in your life that you are grateful for!  Do this for 30 days.  I guarantee you that by the end of the 30 days you will begin to have a different outlook on your life.  You will see how lucky you are and won’t think this world is in the dump.  Let the brainwashing begin!

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