Top 10 List of ZERO Cost Ways to Spend Quality Time with your TEENS!

February 8th, 2010 by jewels No comments »

Yes I said it – a top 10 list of ways you can spend time with your Teenagers that do not cost any money!  Many of my clients have a more difficult time (I even did) thinking of ways to spend time with their teens.  It is so easy when they are little.  I used to play hide and seek with my kids, legos, matchbox cars, color, paint, have a picnic or simply just chase each other.  Well, when they are older they really don’t like to color so much and they will only play hide and seek or ghost in the graveyard outside in the summer with their friends – NOT THEIR PARENTS! 

So what do you do with teens when they are older and you are under a budget?  I polled my Facebook Friends for help on this one!  Thanks for everyone’s input.  Here they are the top 10!  Great idea from Donna LaMar is to have them bring friends with too!  You will all have fun!

1.  Talk to them about the new Facebook interface!  Do they like it?

2.  Cook dinner with them and make their favorite meal or try something new

3.  When they are 16 they need 100 + hours drive time in the car (at least in Illinois).  I took my kids to lunch 1 1/2 hours away and back to get drive time. 

4.  Bring up a subject that is controversial in their mind and they will talk about it (I guarantee it - just don’t judge them at all)

5.  Teach them how to fix something at your house or have them help you paint a room or the house (my kids really got into painting our house a couple years ago)

6.  Go to a zoo or museum on the free admission day or to a local state park and explore

7. Watch a favorite TV show or movie (American Idol, Miss America Pageant, Lost, or favorite movies from the library)

8.  Play games (suggestions were Scrabble, cards, Uno, Wii and etc..)

9.  Play sports – what kind?  Well what are you into?  BMX racing, baseball, softball, football, Frisbee, badminton, volleyball, hiking, biking,  etc………

10.  Volunteer together – the local food pantry, soup kitchen, animal shelter, sending supplies to Haiti – watch the newspaper for ideas or use Google

Enjoy!  Remember kids really do enjoy spending fun times with the family.  Don’t bring up the chores or anything like that.  Make this a time where your kids can just be themselves to build their confidence.  They really need you to know this side of them because I know you think they are amazing!  Sometimes we don’t let them know enough that we know they are amazing!

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Top 10 List of What Teenagers Want From Their Parents!!

February 1st, 2010 by jewels No comments »

I recently saw a blog post on Mercola.com titled The Top 10 Things Children Really Want Their Parents to Do With Them which is a really great if you have younger kids.  I have three teenagers.  So, with the help of one of my kids I wrote this list from the viewpoint of teenagers! 

The top ten things teenagers want from their parents: 

  1. Show respect to them – it will SHOCK them!
  2. Stay off their Facebook page – they don’t like that.  OMG and please don’t put comments on there!  LOL
  3. Spend time with them and that doesn’t include doing chores.  It can’t all be work, work , work….
  4. See their talents and gifts not their ‘C’ in Geometry.  Stop seeing the bad and see the really good things that are in them!
  5. Be happy. If you are happy it is easier for them to be happy!
  6. Have great snacks (not just fruit) in the house to share with their friends.  They look cool then!
  7. Let them drive your car.  They love the freedom and that you see them as a responsible person!
  8. See things from their perspective not just yours.  Wow, if you could get good at this – you ARE a winner!
  9. Give them gas money every once in a while.  Show them that they are doing great things and they can expect to get some kudos for it randomly.
  10. They don’t want lectures!  If you have a beef with them – get to the point in 20 words or less.  THEY will respect you for that! 

Enjoy!

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DREAMERS WANTED!

January 25th, 2010 by jewels 2 comments »

Reach for your dreams!

I started two mastermind groups today with people from all over the world on these calls.  They are here to see how they can bring into their lives what they REALLY want.  So many people think we are victims to our circumstances.  We think we can’t have success in our lives because that only happens to people that really deserve it or to lucky people.  The fact is success happens to people who know they can achieve it.  They see the success in their lives and in their mind first and then work to achieve it in physical results. 

What do you see in your life right now?  Do you see the lack of what you want?  Or do you see what you want to bring into physical results?  On the bottom of a piece of paper, write down your current results.  At the top of this same piece of paper, write down where you want to be.  This could be for health, wealth, relationships, family, etc…

There is a gap between your current results and what your dreams are isn’t there?  So tell me what you focus on all the time – current results or future success?  The answer to this question is what you have in your life right now.  If you focus on the lack of what you have then that is what you have - more lack.  If you focus on your future success – then that is what you have - a successful life! 

Focus on what you WANT in your life. Write it down.  If you would like to join our mastermind group, simply send me an email and tell me why.   I think I have space for one more dreamer!

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We fail only when we quit!

January 18th, 2010 by jewels No comments »

EDISON FAILED 10,000 TIMES BEFORE PERFECTING THE INCANDESCENT ELECTRIC LIGHTBULB. DON’T WORRY IF YOU FAIL ONCE.

Many of us give up if we fail once!  We HAVE to remind ourselves this is really normal.  We are going to fail at things over and over again until we find a way to WIN!  What have you failed at in the past?  Did you quit?  Did you keep going? 

I studied for the CPA exam for 5 months and failed it.  I took it again and failed it again.  I was devastated.  I was more devastated that people saw me as a failure than I was at failing the exam.  Well, I took the exam again and guess what…..failed it again.  I really had a tough decision to make here should I take it again and possibly fail it again or should I take it over and over again until I passed?  Well, it was a very strong goal of mine to pass the CPA exam and so I decided that I was going to sit for the exam a 100 more times until I passed it.  The fourth time I took the exam I passed 3/4 of it which meant that I only had to take that last 1/4 the next time.  So the fifth time, I took the last part of the exam I didn’t pass yet and guess what happened?  Yes, I passed it!  I passed it because I tied my passion, decision and persistence to my goal.  I won!!!  Now everytime I want to achieve a goal, I look back to my success equation and replicate it until I win again! 

Look into your past and see what the circumstances were when you won!  Replicate these circumstances so you can win over and over again! 

BE UNSTOPPABLE!

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Raise Confident Teenagers in 2010!

January 11th, 2010 by jewels No comments »

What is one of the biggest things that gets in the way of raising confident teenagers?  Could it be the parent’s confidence?  This is the largest obstacle that stops us from raising confident kids.  If our parents were not able to raise us with confidence then how can we teach our kids to grow up with confidence?   Add the fact that there are so many stresses that families face today: job security, debt, health, relationship issues, etc…  How do parents manage this if they do not have a strong self image? Plus parents are fighting against all the teenage stresses including drugs, alcohol, driving, internet predators and just plain ole respect.

There is one really simple recipe to grow the confidence of the whole family!  We mix a little improved self image along with a bunch of happiness, then we throw in gratitude and a super outlook to create some amazing results!  As the confidence and happiness of the family grows - everyone benefits! 

We can all take part in improving families and especially teenagers confidence by learning some very key tools.  Join a  free webinar this week being offered two times for your convenience ($49 value).  

Pick the best time and reserve your spot now!

Thursday, January 14th, 2009 at 7pm central:  https://www2.gotomeeting.com/register/136599778

or Saturday, January 16th, 2009 at 8am central:  https://www2.gotomeeting.com/register/170322170

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Let’s Raise Confident Kids in 2010!

January 4th, 2010 by jewels No comments »

Happy New Year!  What hopes and dreams do you have for this new year?  Many of us want to lose weight, quit smoking, spend less money, or get a better job.  What about adding a new one to the list – let’s help raise more confident kids!  This goal is for anyone that is around kids: parents, aunts, uncles, grandparents, step parents, teachers, etc….  By doing a few things you can make a difference in at least one kid’s life this year.  Let’s make this our goal. 

I will be hosting a free webinar Thursday, January 7, 2010, 8pm central.  You will receive tips on how to help raise more confident kids in 2010.  How many of you would love to make some wonderful connections with the kids in your life? 

Sign up for the webinar now!  This is a $49 value and is my gift to you.  Let’s get 2010 rolling for some amazing changes! Space is limited. Reserve your Webinar seat now at: https://www2.gotomeeting.com/register/574674035

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New Year’s Resolutions Again?

December 28th, 2009 by jewels No comments »

new yearsWhere would we be right now if we followed ALL the way through with our last year’s resolutions?  Do you remember what they were? Where would you be if you achieved all of them? And where are you now?  Are you feeling badly about dumping the resolutions mid-January? At my local gym, January is a very difficult time to find a parking spot.  Every one is there fulfilling their New Year’s Resolutions.  When February rolls around……the excuses have more power.  We find our self right where our self image says we should be …on our couch! 

The key to winning the change game is to increase your self image.  Until you begin to build your self image you will never achieve your New Year’s resolutions!  

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Christmas is for You Too!

December 21st, 2009 by jewels No comments »

STockingMerry Christmas!  What a week huh!  Busy shopping, eating, visiting, and maybe enjoying some time off work!  I would love to see and hear you doing things that improve the way you feel about yourself!  We seem to do things for others especially this time of year!  What would you love to do to celebrate this magical time of year?  What can you put into your stocking to make you feel special?  Let me give you some ideas of things I would love to fit into my stocking to make myself feel great this week!  I would love to go swimming, take a bubble bath, get my nails done, spend some quality time with some of my favorite people, stay up late, sleep in the next day, some great meditations, playing games with my kids and I could go on and on.  (Trust me you want me to stop!) 

Your turn ….what do you truly WANT to do this week?  I say do it!  It is all about ACTION right?  Take some action and try to do at least a couple things on your list this week so you feel great!  When you feel great everyone around you feels great too! 

Have a great holiday!!  Feel great and Be great!

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Want Those Amazing Results in Your Life?

December 14th, 2009 by jewels No comments »

As of last Monday you have started to take ACTION!!  Feel good?  Yes!  I know!  Now as you continue through your actions you are going to see some amazing results.  It is a chain reaction!  Think – Feel – Actions – Results.

Get a piece of paper and make 4 columns with these headings above each one (Think, Feel, Action, Results).  Here are instructions to complete the columns:

Think – Put one thing that really adds a lot of stress to your life. 

Feel – How you feel about this stress?

Actions – What have been your actions about this stress?

Results – Have you been getting the results that you want to change this?

 This is a wonderful little worksheet to show you how you focus on your stresses and just get more of your stresses!  So now take the worksheet and enter what you WANT under the think column.  Then how would you feel about having it?  What would your actions be?  What results are you going to get?  It is soooooo amazing how if we just shift our thinking – change our glasses about our life – how we can change everything in it!  Give this a try!  I would LOVE to hear your light bulb moments!  I would also LOVE you to teach this to your teenagers!  My daughter helped me test this worksheet.  She had a light bulb moment!  What an amazing lesson for her to focus and put all her power on what she WANTS!

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Next Step is Taking Action

December 7th, 2009 by jewels No comments »

i luv meStill growing your self image right!!  November 30th, I asked you to create a list of fun things you want in your lives…….pick one item and list a couple baby steps on how to achieve it.  Of course you won’t know all the steps.  That is okay just write down what you know.  After you write these down implement one of them immediately!  DON’T WAIT.  Do it Now!!! 

As you are sprinting into action, how does this feel?  It feels good doesn’t it?  Our goal is to feel good now!  We spend too much time feeling bad about what we don’t want and we don’t do.  Now we are taking Massive Action as Tony Robbins says and begin to take action on one thing on your list.  If it is achieving a goal weight then make working out one of your actions.  Do your workouts everyday!  How do you feel while taking this action?  You have already achieved your goal – to feel great!  Keep it going!  Keep your list full of action items and keep working on them. 

Now the only thing that is going to stop you from continuous action is your current self image.  It is going to kick, scratch and fight the new you that you are growing.  This is okay!  When you are feeling this fight – you know you are changing towards the better!  Celebrate by patting yourself on the back!  Keep moving towards the goal line!

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